Never Tell Your Partner You Love Them After a Betrayal

Author: Michal Peretz | Published on Oct 23, 2024 | Last Updated on October 26, 2024 | Time: 12:22 PM

Never tell a partner that you love them right after you’ve broken their trust. It ceases to feel like a compliment. The love I once felt for you now feels like torment. Loving you has turned into a painful experience, as if I’m trapped in a burning house. All those years we shared and the belief that you were a safe person to love are now going up in flames. Everything - the gifts, the money, the false promises, the words of affirmation, the support—has turned to ash, leaving me to question if it ever meant anything to you. When I finally let my guard down, it led to an attachment that now feels like chains, preventing me from escaping to safety. I’m left here, engulfed in smoke and fire, trying to process this harsh new reality. No matter how hard I focus on anything else, I see you moving on, free from the burden of your conscience while I’m left to endure this pain. It’s infuriating when you ask, “Why don’t you just get over it?” or imply I’m dwelling on the past. After a betrayal, saying you love or miss me feels empty; your actions have already spoken volumes. Don't even tell me I'm "sexy af" or "I still miss you" either because you come across as insincere because behavior is a language and your actions have showed me since the beginning that you never even liked me because you couldn't even understand what I'm saying or care. It's just so sickening to me that you led me on for so long and I never even got a chance to really accept this loss. I'm not here to seek your approval or validation of me, I simply just wanted to the pain to stop. This pain you'll never know because you don't feel like I do. If you did, you would've stuck it out and try to be more positive.