According to Rabbi Michael Macks, in his podcast The Law of Attraction, he analyzes the legitimacy of “pop spirituality” movements and Torah and Kabbalistic evidence, the Law of Attraction is based on the principle that the energy we project outward is the energy we attract back. Our thoughts and inner beliefs set the tone for the experiences and relationships we invite into our lives.
For example, if someone continually thinks, “It’s hard to make money,” they emit an energy of scarcity. On the other hand, thoughts like “Money flows to me easily” project abundance and ease, aligning with prosperity. This applies to relationships as well: holding the energy of self-worth through beliefs like “People enjoy being in a relationship with me” radiates confidence that draws others in, while carrying the energy of unworthiness or isolation may attract partners who reinforce those same dynamics (Macks, M. 2025).
For more information on the Law of Attraction history, can be found here: A Brief History of the Law of Attraction
While often treated as a modern concept, the Law of Attraction echoes principles found in Torah and Kabbalah.
Exodus 30:12 contains the word “ve-natnu” (וְנָתְנוּ), meaning “they shall give,” which is written as a palindrome, spelled the same forward and backward. Ba’al HaTurim interprets this as symbolic of reciprocity: whatever one gives to charity will ultimately return (Ba’al HaTurim, commentary on Ex. 30:12). Similarly, in Deuteronomy 14:22, the phrase “tithe you shall tithe” is doubled, which the Talmud reads as reinforcing the spiritual law that what is given will be replenished (Talmud Bavli, Ta’anit 9a).
In the late 18th and early 19th century, Rabbi Nachman taught spiritual practices connecting faith, charity, and fertility. In Siddur HaMidrashim 34, he describes how giving charity and cultivating faith are expansive energies that influence the physical realm, such as the blessing of children. These acts align with the Creator, the ultimate Source of expansion (Nachman of Breslov, n.d.).
The Torah’s juxtaposition of the Sotah (a woman suspected of adultery) and the Nazir (one who abstains from wine and ritual impurity) suggests a spiritual principle: projecting the energy of unfaithfulness can manifest destructive outcomes, requiring corrective measures such as abstinence from wine (Numbers 5–6). While rooted in marital faithfulness, this principle can extend to modern relationships, including monogamous commitments outside of marriage.
In Genesis 47:7, Jacob blesses Pharaoh during the famine, demonstrating that Pharaoh had no ultimate authority over Jacob, spiritual alignment with divine energy surpassed earthly power. Even when systems changed under a new Pharaoh, the spiritual principle endured: human influence is limited, but divine connection remains constant (Macks, M. 2025).
Beyond trauma and abusive dynamics, the Law of Attraction can also serve as a lens for understanding and healing the pain of betrayal and infidelity. When relationships fracture, it is easy to externalize blame, but healing requires recognizing our own energetic role in the patterns that led slow chipping away at the delicate vase of our relationship. This does not mean we caused a partner’s betrayal; it means that the energy we hold, whether of fear, scarcity, or unhealed wounds, can shape what unfolds in our interpersonal lives. By taking accountability for our energy, we reclaim the power to transform.
Every human being wrestles with impulses: addiction, temptation, even infidelity. These struggles do not make us defective; they reflect the reality that emotional regulation and maturity are learned skills, not innate gifts or moral deficiency. Many people are never taught these skills in childhood due to trauma, neglect, or the absence of healthy role models. Without them, we may unconsciously repeat harmful cycles in adult relationships. Recognizing this helps shift the focus from shame to growth: our vulnerabilities are not moral failings but invitations to develop deeper self-awareness.
The Law of Attraction reframes betrayal not only as a wound but also as an opportunity to realign with healthier energies. By acknowledging both our humanity and our responsibility, we can learn to attract relationships grounded in honesty, trust, and mutual respect, without accusations or blame. This process requires shadow work, accountability, and a commitment to emotional healing practices that allow us to break free from cycles of reactivity while cultivating resilience, intimacy, and integrity. In this way, betrayal becomes a doorway to transformation rather than a life sentence of pain, guilt, and shame.
This dynamic reflects a broader double standard often present in modern relationships. Girlfriends may feel pressured into monogamy and into providing what are essentially “wife privileges” - such as loyalty, financial contributions, intimacy, and emotional labor, without receiving the security, stability, or formal commitment of marriage in return. At the same time, some boyfriends retain greater freedom, keeping their options open or excusing their own actions while holding their partners to stricter standards. Such disparities can create an imbalance of expectations and accountability, where women carry disproportionate emotional weight while men face fewer consequences for the same behaviors (Peretz, M., 2025).
The biblical ritual of the Sotah offers a symbolic lens for modern relational dynamics, especially around betrayal, infidelity, and denial. In the Torah, a woman suspected of adultery underwent a public test before the community, where truth was ultimately revealed through divine intervention (Numbers 5). While such rituals do not exist in today’s society, the metaphor still resonates in how denial and minimization function in relationships affected by narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and other abusive traits.
Many individuals with narcissistic tendencies deny ever cheating, or they redefine what constitutes infidelity. They may dismiss emotional affairs, online interactions, or seeking external “supply” as harmless, claiming their partner is simply being “insecure,” “jealous,” or “overreacting.” This gaslighting leaves the betrayed party with no closure, trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and invalidation. The ancient Sotah trial, by contrast, ensured that hidden betrayal was no longer obscured in secrecy.
Through the lens of the Law of Attraction, this denial can be seen as energetic alignment: like attracts like. Those who are overly righteous, argumentative, or chronically defensive often carry within them unacknowledged guilt, temptations, or unresolved struggles. In turn, those attracted to them may have their own unhealed wounds, such as experiences of emotional unavailability, betrayal, or unmet needs in earlier relationships. This does not mean the betrayed partner would ever act on infidelity themselves, but it does suggest that past unresolved pain or vulnerabilities may unconsciously draw them into dynamics with partners who embody these betrayals.
Using the Law of Attraction in conjunction with deep self-reflection and shadow work, survivors can obtain the clarity they need without external “proof” of their partner’s cheating. Even if the narcissistic partner denies their disloyalty, the Law of Attraction reveals truth through energy: your own attraction patterns expose the reality of who they are. By understanding your energetic role, such as being drawn to individuals who are emotionally unavailable or who distort loyalty and devotion, you reclaim power over the narrative, and the partner with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) who denies being unfaithful, no longer has the power to deny their own disloyalty.The energy does not lie, even when the words of a partner do.
Moreover, individuals with NPD often alter their reality to escape accountability. They may deliberately start fights, withdraw, or issue threats to leave the relationship, all as a means of avoiding the label of “cheater.” Yet the Law of Attraction cuts through denial: it shows that energy speaks louder than words. A person who cannot sustain loyalty radiates that instability, no matter how they disguise it. When survivors tune into this reality and engage in their own healing, they recognize that closure and proof do not have to come from the abuser’s admission, but from alignment with truth and self-awareness.
This deeper understanding of the Law of Attraction also clarifies why survivors of abuse may find themselves drawn to partners with narcissistic or other personality disorder traits. From the very beginning, coercion, psychological abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting create energy manipulation that is rooted in deception rather than truth. This is not necessarily the result of the Law of Attraction itself, but of toxic individuals who lack empathy and deliberately fabricate an image by mirroring and mimicking the positive qualities of their victims. Narcissists and other abusive partners often present themselves as reflections of what their victims most value, while in reality hiding a lack of authenticity and integrity.It is not that survivors inherently share those same maladaptive traits in their relationships with individuals who have personality disorders. Rather, it is the intersection of unhealed trauma and adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), patterns learned in families or early relationships that creates energetic vulnerabilities. These unresolved wounds can make certain unhealthy dynamics feel familiar or magnetic, requiring deep acceptance and accountability for one’s role in failed or toxic relationship dynamics through shadow work of the self (Peretz, M., 2025).
Ba’al HaTurim. (n.d.). Commentary on Exodus 30:12.
Genesis 47:7. Tanakh.
Macks, M. (Host). (2025, August 31). Ep 20 – The Law of Attraction [Audio podcast episode]. In Practical Spiritual Tidbits. Spotify. https://open.spotify.com/episode/1bZzXrZKE48LD4fSU3CGe5?si=231d2006978f495f
Nachman of Breslov. (n.d.). Siddur HaMidrashim 34.
Numbers 5:11–31. Torah. The ritual of the Sotah, describing the trial of a woman suspected of adultery.
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